How to Word Your Wedding Invitation With Examples

Getting started on your wedding invitations? You must be feeling pumped! For me that's one of the best (and most fun) part of the wedding preparation journey, second only to gown hunting!

To get started

First, pick the wedding stationery design that best brings out your wedding theme or vision. It could illustrate your love story, or set the tone for guests to know what kind of actual-day wedding vibes they can expect.

Next, it's time to take on wedding invitation wording. Complement the design by being clear on the kind of tone you want for the wording. Your wedding invitation could be traditional and classic or creative - it's up to you!

You might start to fret about having to adhere to wedding invitation etiquette rules. Don't worry - The rules are simple and the same basic elements apply to every type of invitation.

Here's an overview of the basic elements in a wedding invitation and pointers to note:

  • The host line
  • The request line for guest to attend the wedding
  • Names of bride and groom
  • Wedding date and time
  • Wedding location
  • Reception time
  • Dress code (if any)
  • RSVP information

Let's walk through each element one by one:

The host line

There are variations to the host line, largely depending on who is footing the bill (wedding couple or parents or both). These are the common scenarios:

If bride's parents are hosting

Example:

Mr. and Mrs. Gary Pan
Invite you to attend the wedding ceremony
uniting their daughter

Helen Pan
and
Lawrence Fong

If both parents are hosting

Place bride’s parents’ names before the groom’s parents’ names.

Example:

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Lim and
Mr. and Mrs. Peter Sim
invite you to witness the marriage
of their children

Adeline Lim
and
Matthew Sim

If the wedding couple is hosting

Couples may choose to omit mention of parents.

Example:

Seraphina Koh
and
Thomas Yap
request the pleasure of your company
at their marriage

If the couple is hosting with their parents

Many wedding couples these days choose to look past who's footing the bill and would graciously include mention of their parents on the wedding invitation as a form of courtesy.

Example (simple one-liner without parents' names):

Together with their families
Clara Liang
and
Christopher Lee
invite you to join them
at the celebration of their marriage

Example (with parents' names):

Together with their families
Mr. and Mrs. Christian Liang
Mr. and Mrs. Derek Lee

Clara Liang
and
Christopher Lee
invite you to join them
at the celebration of their marriage

If divorced parents (who are not remarried) are hosting

List mother's name first followed by father's name. Do not use “and” to connect the two names - ensure each name gets its own separate line.

Example:

Ms. Georgia Goh
Mr. Leonard Yu
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter

Cynthia Yu
to
Victor Huang

If bride’s parents are hosting and they are divorced (and remarried with bride wishing to include stepparents)

Include the mother and step-father first, followed by the father and step-mother second.

Mr. and Mrs. John Oh
Mr. and Mrs. David Wee
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Michelle Wee
to
Michael Yeo

If groom’s divorced parents are hosting and the father is remarried but the mother isn't

Mr. and Mrs. Harrison Fang
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter

Michelle Fang
to
Gavin Song

son of
Ms. Shirley Chua
Mr. and Mrs. Edward Peh

If a widowed parent is hosting

Mrs. Victor Hong
requests the honour of your presence
at the marriage of her daughter
Katherine Hong

If a remarried living parent is hosting and couple wishes to include deceased parent

Mr. and Mrs. William Ou-yang
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of her daughter
Diana Liam
daughter of the late Mr. David Liam
to Jones Yang

The Request Line

There are many ways to ask your guests to partake in your special day.

Here are a few common phrases:

"would love for you to join the couple"

"warmly invite you to celebrate with them"

"cheerfully invite you to join them as they say "I do!""

"request the pleasure of your company"

"request the honour of your presence"

Note: "Request the honour of your presence" implies the wedding ceremony will be held in a church. For more casual wording, we recommend "request the pleasure of your company".

The Names of Bride and Groom

Name of the bride typically precedes the groom's name.

For a same-sex marriage, there isn't a "woman first and man second" rule. You could have the names in alphabetical order or go with an order that sounds nicer.

The Date and Time

For formal weddings

Write the date and time out in full instead of using numerals.

The year is optional if you're mailing out your invitations within the same year as your wedding. Time of the day is spelled using "o'clock".

For casual weddings, feel free to use numerals.

The Location

State the venue (name of the hotel or restaurant). Include the street address if it's a particularly hard to get to location.

Also indicate the state and city if applicable.

Reception Information

You may include the reception location and time on your wedding invitation itself.

For highly formal invitations, this information is included on a separate card.

Dress Code

If you are initiating a dress code for your guests, include this information at the lower right hand corner of your wedding invitation.

If you do not specify the attire, the look and feel of the invitation will signal the dress code.

For example, if the invitation looks luxurious and fancy, guests may suit up for a formal, black-tie affair. If the invitation looks clean and simple, they may dress more casually.

RSVP

Traditionally, wedding couples include a separate response card for guests to fill out and send back via mail.

Increasingly, modern couples share RSVP via a wedding website (which has the benefit of a wedding gift registry). State the website url address clearly and that guests should let you know if they are attending via the website.

If you do not have a wedding website, feel free to specify your phone number (or email address) instead.

You might like to include a date for guests to RSVP by if you have a strict timeline for the wedding.

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